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"Any idea when you're interviewing the band?" an inquiry pops up. "I wanted to ask if I can join as their extra sister."

However, there remains a single issue: The sender also longs to be Haim's additional sibling. What's more, we are not alone. A host of famous fans have publicly petitioned for the position.

It's clear an irresistible appeal is at play. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana started their path playing gigs at local delicatessens with their parents. Today, they are multi-time Grammy Award hopefuls.

Like all the best ensembles, they're a close trio. Their visuals often show them striding in unison down the roads of Los Angeles. On stage, they play with such unfettered joy you find yourself thinking, "I want to be part of that, too."

"The amount of times on tour that audience members came up to us and said, 'Seeing you perform, I got a drum kit'," remarks Alana, the youngest of the Haim siblings. "It is the greatest honor. That's an award in itself. We have succeeded if we can inspire people to start a band."

"And thus anyone gets an invitation to be the honorary member of Haim."

Historic Milestone

The group have called into a break, where they're resting up after an lengthy tour in support of their latest album, I Quit.

They're currently processing the news it's been shortlisted for best rock album at the Grammys – with Haim the pioneering all-woman band ever in consideration for the prize.

"I watch the lists every year, so it sort of feels like a surreal movie when your name is read out," explains Alana. "I immediately called my sisters to say, 'Am I hearing this correctly or am I hallucinating'?"

The weight of the honor is deeply felt by the band.

"We truly set out to make a rock record this time, so it's a significant achievement," says Alana. "Yet we're just appreciative for the women that came before us."

Personal Turmoil and Laughter

The album came out of a period of transition. All three sisters ended up single, and the music inhabits that unique transitional period where you're happy to be free, but not entirely ready to start anew.

The themes detail endings and goodbyes. The sisters desire love, but not the kind of love they've had. You can hear them figuring out in the moment who they are becoming.

"That's a perfect summary, yes," says Danielle. "I Quit is like a mantra. You have to consciously practice shutting out the noise and saying, 'I couldn't care less what people think'."

Refinement of Music

That newfound toughness demanded a fresh approach – more raw and powerful than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who co-produced the album, that started with the percussion.

"The drum sound is such a specific thing, and I care so much about it," she emphasizes.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the title of our book," laughs Alana. "I always say, our albums don't start until we find the ideal drum sound."

Anecdotes and Collective Humor

The trio's honesty shaped the album's rollout, where the sisters shared some of their romantic horror stories.

A former partner broke up with Este over a medical concern. Alana shared a story of travelling to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a high five at midnight.

"Experiencing these breakups, you just feel like there's no light," notes Alana. "Therefore to be able to find humor in those stories and hear others tell you wilder stories, it's incredible."

An Assured Future

You can clearly sense a evolution in the band. Today, Haim are more certain of their place in the industry.

They're top-billed acts, with chart-topping albums and an international audience.

Yet the band will forever be their primary commitment.

"We have been playing music since I was four," says Alana. "It feels as if no alternative that we were meant to do. And I'm really thankful we've gotten here and we're still going strong."